We all have those thoughts… the ones that keep coming up. Maybe it’s an unresolved thing with someone, worry over a job or money, or a fear of something happening or not happening, you know what I mean. It’s that thing that no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get rid of it. You may logically know it’s not true, so sometimes the response to the thought is to try to just change it, or talk yourself out of it. And it works.
For about 30 seconds.
I want to share with you some ways to handle that when it comes. If you try this, you’ll see where it leads for yourself. I’ve seen this work over and over for myself and others, and when you experience it—you can now have a way to deal with those thoughts when they come up.
Sit with your journal and begin asking questions such as:
1. What is this thought trying to show me?
Often, if we have some kind of obsessive thought loop, it’s because there’s something underneath it that really needs to be addressed. The thought could be a self-protection mechanism at work, could be pointing to a fear that needs to be addressed, could be covering up some hurt or anger and trying to rationalize, or it could be afraid to lose something. Stay with this question until an answer produces an emotional response in your body. That’s when you know you’re onto something.
2. What’s the need underneath this thought?
Often, there is some unmet need. Especially if those thoughts are resentful in nature.
3. What is the belief that is causing this thought?
This is where those thoughts can really be valuable to look at, because they’re always showing you SOME belief. For instance, if you’re worried, it could be a belief that you’re unsafe, and when the belief is identified, you can then look further at it. Like, “well, why do I believe I’m unsafe? Where did that come from?
These are some things that can really build awareness, and awareness is what gets out out of loops that feel “autopilot” like. You’d be very surprised on what can come up with you get curious with those thought patterns and what they reveal, and then you can deal with the source of the “fire” instead of having to constantly throw water on them. You stop setting them.
I hope this helps, and remember, I’m always here to help. This is one big part of what I teach, which empowers you in immeasurable ways. It’s a wonderful thing to be able to see things clearly, and to know how to get to the truth.
Hope this serves you today!